DASA LOVE LAB by Thaleia

 

DASA LOVE LAB

 

Hi guys! This is an introduction to a new column on the stage voice that deals with love, romance and relationships in pit theatre. Right from the get-go, any student that is new to pit theatre and its environs is quick to find out that loving someone else in this department is a quite controversial topic. It is frowned on by many, discouraged by some and totally avoided by most. Some say that relationships between pit persons do not last, are too complicated and totally unnecessary. This notion is backed up by examples of couples who have dated for over 3 years and eventually end up breaking up.

 This column aims to find the “termite that dwells underground”, the reason why these so called relationships are not stable. What exactly is the problem? By interviewing couples that are still together, broken up, on the verge of breaking up or on the verge of getting together, we can dig into the intricacies of relationships in the pit theatre space.

 Mind you, although these interviews may seem like spilling the tea or hearing hot gist, it is my fervent hope that reading these interviews either sparks a new flame in couples, rekindles dying flames or teaches lessons to those who need to learn and avoid making the same mistakes their predecessors make.

 We humans are wired to equate love and comfort. Everyone wants their significant other to be someone who knows them and they can be comfortable and be themselves around. It is of no surprise that people in the same space for a long period of time find themselves developing feelings for each other. And there’s absolutely nothing wrong with that! Hopefully, this column corrects our wrong notions about love, relationships and romance, in DASA and outside of it.

Hemm!! (clears throat) Today’s episode of love affair ehn comes with a little spice of confusion here and there around somewhere, why this confusion, we do not know o but it might be a pointer to someone about to enter the boat of love again to sail.

AD: Was I really into the relationship with her??? I will answer YES and to the other party, NO

AD: I've always wanted to be with her the first day I set my eyes on her

Cave: How did you guys meet? And what was your first encounter like?

AD: My first encounter with her was when we were grouped for a debate project last year. She might not remember but I still do. I doubt she even noticed my existence at the time until this year but I liked her since then. I had butterflies in my belly on that day. It was surreal.

Cave: What made you like her? Anything special?

AD: In my first encounter, she looks so cute to me but moving closer to her, I realized that she's someone with a good heart.

Cave: Who made the first move? You? If so, how?

AD: I did. Can we forget about the so called *"HOW"*

Cave: Alright

Cave: When you were together, What was it like?

Cave: Can you share any special memories you hold dear to you?

AD: Ok, : Our conversations, especially when she advises... Or days we talk more on our growths, Personal growths and our dreams. I've never felt that way towards anyone, and I don't know if I can still feel that way even though I lost a lot, academically,  lost friendships, relationships. But I counted it all joy as per say this is for someone I love

Cave: Any fights that you remember?

AD: Misunderstandings or fight... There are lots. But don't really remember any for now, but we do step in each other's toes a lot of time.

Cave: I see

Cave: So what eventually led to your break up?

AD: I foresee what the relationship will look like in some couple of years and I didn't see us there together. I think some couple of misunderstandings actually led to this 😓

Cave: Torh. Do you miss her?

AD: Not really!

Cave: How did Dasa affect your relationship?

AD: I think it affected positively and on the other hand negatively

Cave: Expatiate

AD: There are days in which constant rehearsals (I mean back to back rehearsal) gives us little or no time for deep communications. After rigorous rehearsals... Stress, not really having time

Cave: I see

Cave: Any advice for people in relationships in Dasa?

AD: Setting their priorities right , even though there might be difficulties in doing so. Holding unto it dearly, I mean fight for it, if you need to! Be wise!

Cave: Thanks dear. Have a great day!

AD: You too

 Well, it seems from the other end is another story from the female counterpart, nevertheless there is a common trend in what they say.

SA: What relationship. We're just friends

Cave: I know. Didn't both of you date for a while?

SA: We didn't

Altè Cave: But he said you did.

SA: OMG....swears we didn't

Cave: Oh okay. But you liked each other?

SA: Yeah

Cave: Okay then I'll still interview you

SA: I'm ready

Cave: I'm glad sweetie

Cave: You want to stay anonymous?

SA: No

Cave: So how did you meet him?

SA: I can't really say again because I have forgotten how..but the gist is before, I never liked him until this year...we got close through a reading group, so he's always ready to help me with anything that deals with reading or something else.

Cave: Oh so you got close through studying? He was like a study partner?

SA: Yeah

Cave: What happened after that?

SA: hmm.... there was just this strong feeling I had from him and from me.

Cave: How did you guys spend time together?

SA: We talk... that's what we do most times.

Cave: What did you guys talk about?

SA: Anything

Cave: Expatiate please

SA: We hardly talk about what we feel like.. Just anything that pops in

Cave: And is that lack of communication the reason why you are not together?

SA: Maybe, Sometimes he's always shy to talk.

Cave: So that's why you aren't together?

SA: Not really

Cave: Then why not?

SA: He started acting weird

Cave: Expatiate

SA: Okay...I'll

SA: Oya

Cave: So basically, miscommunication was the major reason for both of you losing feelings?

SA: Yeah maybe.

Cave: Do you wish you could have done it better? If given a second chance what would you have done different

SA: Yeah

SA: Yeah... we will communicate well and express feelings

Cave: What advice do you have for people in relationships in Dasa or who are struggling in theirs?

SA: Me? i don't know o

SAA: Because relationships that I have been seeing no dey bring joy

Cave: So you don't advice people in pit to date?

SA: I don't

Cave: Alright .Thank you for your time.

Do you guys think they can make it work again if given the chance. let me know in the comment section. 

There you have it guys, next week, watch out for this space for more but before then kindly leave a comment on how you feel about this column.